Low or Mismatched Sex Drives

Here, we believe intimacy is not measured by numbers, there’s no magic frequency or “right” amount of sex that defines a healthy relationship. Yet, research tells us that roughly 1 in 3 couples struggle with mismatched sexual desire, which can quietly erode closeness, spark miscommunication, or even lead to resentment or infidelity over time. 

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Some people have sex every day, some have it a couple times a year, some never. Too much or too little sex becomes a problem only when there is a difference in sex drive between partners. Depending on how long the relationship has been sexless or with minimal intimacy, will make the difference as to how long it will take to get things back on track. There needs to be communication, understanding, time and most of all patience to see changes in the relationship. 

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What makes us unique? We create a space where you and your partner can finally talk about it without shame or awkwardness. We explore not just the physical aspects (like medications, hormonal shifts, or stress) but also the emotional patterns: Are you feeling desired? Heard? Valued? We help you discover new pathways back to one another — emotionally, sensually, and physically — with humor, patience, and care.

 

 Did you know? Studies show that couples who openly discuss their sexual needs report greater relationship satisfaction and emotional security — even if their drives don’t perfectly match. Let’s bring that conversation alive for you!

 

Painful Intercourse (Dyspareunia)

Sex isn’t supposed to hurt — but for up to 20% of women, it does, often in silence. We work compassionately with women and couples to address not just the pain, but the emotional fallout: fear, avoidance, guilt, or loss of intimacy.

 

What’s powerful here is that the journey isn’t just about eliminating pain — it’s about redefining connection. We help couples build physical and emotional closeness in ways that don’t revolve solely around penetration. With body-awareness practices, medical referrals, mindfulness, and communication strategies, we gently guide you toward rediscovering the fun, playfulness, and trust in your intimate life.

 

 Fact: Dyspareunia can be caused by everything from pelvic floor dysfunction to hormonal shifts, past trauma, or even simple miscommunication. The good news? With the right guidance, most couples can find ways to restore connection and enjoyment.

 

Orgasm Difficulties or Inability (Anorgasmia)

Orgasm struggles are much more common than you think — roughly 12–15% of women report never having orgasmed, and a staggering 75% don’t reach orgasm through intercourse alone. For men, situational or lifelong anorgasmia can occur due to anxiety, medications, or relationship dynamics.

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We hold this space with no shame, no judgment, and total curiosity. Together, we explore physical, emotional, relational, and psychological layers to help you understand your body and reconnect with your sensual potential.

 

Did you know? Research shows that when partners explore mutual pleasure (rather than focusing solely on orgasm), overall satisfaction skyrockets. We’ll help you shift the focus from “performance” to presence and pleasure.

 

Pregnancy & Postpartum Sexuality

Sex during fertility struggles or after childbirth can feel like a minefield: shifting hormones, body changes, stress, grief, exhaustion — it’s a lot! Many couples worry they’ll “never get back” to how things were, but here’s the truth: You’re evolving into a new phase of your sexual relationship, and with the right support, it can be just as beautiful, if not more so.

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Trying to get pregnant can make us forget that sex is more than intercourse. Sure, you need intercourse to get pregnant. But you don’t need intercourse to show love and affection to each other. 

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Infertility can bring up feelings of shame for men and women. It’s common for women to feel less like a woman and for men with infertility to feel less manly. Even if you once felt sexy and attractive in the past, infertility can change how you see yourself. 

 

Questions:

• How can you improve your sex life while trying to get pregnant or if you have just had a baby? 

• What should you expect in the bedroom postpartum? 

• Are you worried you won’t feel sexy and that things will be different down there? 

• Will it hurt? 

• What is sex like after the baby?

 

We help couples navigate these tender seasons with compassion and practicality. We explore fears (like body image, pain, or performance), build emotional connection, and set realistic expectations so you can rediscover intimacy on your terms.

 

Fact: Studies show that about 83% of couples experience a drop in sexual activity postpartum, but with communication and patience, most regain satisfaction within a year. You don’t have to rush — but you also don’t have to navigate it alone.

 

Sexual Anxieties & Inhibitions

Why is it so hard to say what we want in bed? A lot of it comes down to cultural messages, performance anxiety, and fear of rejection. Many of us have been taught that sex is about “doing it right” rather than feeling connected and free.

 

We create a space where you can unpack these fears and learn to express your desires openly and kindly. Whether you’re anxious about how you look, what you know (or don’t know), or how to please your partner, we help you shift the focus from anxiety to curiosity, play, and exploration.

 

Fact: Research shows that couples who develop strong sexual communication have higher levels of sexual satisfaction and lower rates of sexual dysfunction — it really is the talking that makes the difference!

 

Early Ejaculation

Early ejaculation affects as many as 30% of men at some point — yet many suffer in silence, feeling embarrassed or ashamed. But here’s the hopeful part: Early ejaculation is highly treatable, and we can help you break the cycle of anxiety, disappointment, and avoidance.

At Nashon Clark Psychotherapy, we combine evidence-based techniques with compassionate support, helping you understand the biological, psychological, and relational pieces at play. We’ll work on strategies to build control, confidence, and closeness — because your sexual connection is about so much more than just timing.

 

 Erectile Dysfunction

Around 40–50% of men over 40 experience erectile difficulties, and while it can feel deeply personal, it’s often a shared experience in the relationship. Whether the cause is physical (like diabetes, cardiovascular issues) or psychological (like stress or performance pressure), we create a nonjudgmental space where you and your partner can explore solutions together.

We might collaborate with your physician, explore cognitive shifts, or rebuild relational trust — whatever the pathway, we’re here to help you rediscover intimacy, without pressure or shame.

 

 Dating After Divorce or Breakups

Stepping back into dating after a long-term relationship can feel like learning a whole new language — and in many ways, it is! Apps, texting rules, ghosting, new social norms… it’s overwhelming. But you don’t have to figure it out alone.

We help you rebuild self-confidence, clarify your desires, and navigate the practical (and emotional) side of modern dating. Whether it’s refining your dating profile, addressing intimacy fears, or simply regaining your footing, we’re here to cheer you on — and yes, we make space for humor, because dating should have some fun too!

 

 LGBTQ+ Identity & Sexual Orientation

Sexuality, gender, and orientation are vast, beautiful, and often evolving parts of identity. Whether you’re questioning, exploring, or seeking support in a queer or trans relationship, we provide a safe, affirming space where you can unpack your feelings and deepen your self-understanding.

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At Nashon Clark Psychotherapy, we approach this work with cultural humility, clinical expertise, and heartfelt respect. We help you navigate challenges, celebrate your authentic self, and cultivate the relationships and connections you deserve.

 

Sexuality & Disability / Medical Issues

Your body’s unique abilities don’t erase your need for pleasure, connection, and intimacy — but sometimes, navigating disability or medical issues in sexual relationships takes extra creativity, communication, and support.

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We help you (and your partner) understand physical limitations, explore adaptive techniques, and strengthen emotional bonds. Whether it’s about rediscovering self-pleasure, improving communication, or working through grief and frustration, we’re here to honor your journey and help you embrace the full spectrum of your sensual self.

 

Sex Education & Skill Building

Most of us were left to figure out sex on our own — often with confusing, inaccurate, or shame-based messages. But great lovers aren’t born — they’re learned, and it’s never too late to expand your knowledge and skills.

We provide personalized sex education that covers anatomy, communication, pleasure techniques, and relational dynamics. Whether you want to boost confidence, better understand your partner’s needs, or simply explore more fulfilling intimacy, we create a space for honest learning, growth, and self-discovery.

 

Alternative Lifestyles — Exploring, Navigating, and Thriving

We understand that human sexuality is wonderfully diverse, layered, and deeply personal. More and more people today are exploring alternative relationship styles — like swinging, polyamory, open relationships, or BDSM — as ways to express desire, enhance connection, and live more authentically.

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Swinging (sometimes called “partner swapping”) involves committed couples or singles engaging in sexual activities with others for recreation, social enjoyment, or curiosity. Research suggests that up to 4–5% of U.S. couples have tried swinging at some point, and among those who engage regularly, many report heightened sexual satisfaction, stronger communication, and a deeper understanding of each other’s desires.

But let’s be honest — it’s not always smooth sailing. Without thoughtful boundaries, trust, and communication, alternative lifestyles can bring up jealousy, insecurity, or even relational strain. That’s where we come in.

 

We offer a safe, nonjudgmental space to explore questions like:

• Why are you drawn to this lifestyle?

• How do you set clear boundaries and agreements?

• What happens if someone feels hurt, left out, or unsure?

•  How do you exit gracefully if the lifestyle no longer feels right?

 

Whether you’re curious about adding variety, working through challenges in a current open or kinky relationship, or seeking guidance on stepping away from a lifestyle that no longer fits, we are here to help you navigate it with integrity, clarity, and care.

 

 Did you know? Studies show that successful non-monogamous relationships often report higher levels of communication and negotiation compared to monogamous couples — but they also require more intentional maintenance. We help you strengthen those skills and stay grounded in what matters most to you.

 

 BDSM, Polyamory, Kink and Fetish — Understanding Your Desires

Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, masochism (BDSM), and polyamory (having consensual romantic or sexual relationships with more than one person) are more visible in mainstream culture today — but that doesn’t mean they’re free of stigma, misunderstanding, or emotional complexity.

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We offer kink-aware, sex-positive, and culturally sensitive support to help you explore your desires, communicate effectively with partners, and navigate the emotional, relational, or practical questions that come with these lifestyles.

• Maybe you’re curious and wondering if these spaces are right for you.

• Maybe you’ve been practicing for years but hit emotional or relational roadblocks.

• Maybe you’re feeling pressure to explore something you’re not sure you want.

 

Wherever you are on the journey, we provide space for honest reflection, education, and skill-building — with zero shame and 100% respect.

We help you understand your desires, set healthy boundaries, and explore consent and communication, so your interests enhance — not erode — your relationships. Whether you’re looking to spice things up or address challenges, we’re here to help you navigate it with respect, safety, and even a little playfulness.